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My mother was never really heavy, but she was often dissatisfied with her weight and the way she looked. When I had my own daughter I decided that I didn’t want to pass on that legacy. Every time I looked in a mirror, even though I usually didn’t feel it, I would say out loud “I look great!” If my daughter was standing beside me, I would say “We look great!” I wanted her to grow up believing that what she saw in the mirror was okay.
Year after year, I said it out loud for my daughter’s benefit, but I never truly believed it. I still felt fat and frumpy. My words may have been benefiting my daughter but they weren’t doing anything for me. It wasn’t until I chose to believe the words that I gradually lost the extra weight.
Dr. Bruce Lipton, a cell biologist, says, “When we shift the mind’s interpretation … to positive belief, the brain responds biochemically, the blood changes the body’s cell culture, and the cells change on a biological level.” (Rankin) I think this happened to me. I consistently shifted my interpretation of what I saw in the mirror from fat to slim and started a process that changed the neural pathways in my brain that led to physical changes in my body.
It took awhile for my new interpretation to become a habit. I would look in the mirror and as soon as I caught myself going back to my old, yuck response, I would smile and switch to my new, slim and trim response. The smiling part is important. Studies have shown that the physical act of smiling, even a fake smile, can induce positive emotions (Scientific American). I wasn’t just telling myself I was slim and looking great, I had to feel that way as well and smiling helped create those positive feelings.
My physical changes didn’t happen quickly. It took a few years. I didn’t change my diet or lifestyle. I changed how I thought and felt and that eventually changed how I looked. I know it may sound like delusional thinking, but as Dr. Joe Dispenza says, “The latest research supports the notion that we have a natural ability to change the brain and body by thought alone, so that it looks biologically like some future event has already happened.” It’s not delusion, it’s creating the future you want and that’s a legacy I want to pass on to my daughter.
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Selected References:
Mind Over Medicine: Scientific Proof That You Can Heal Yourself by Lissa Rankin, M.D.
Sounds good to me, Lisa! I’ll give it a shot. 😉
Glad to hear it. All the best for the new year Cheryl 🙂
Happy New Year, Lisa! Visualizing and believing are key. Thanks for sharing an excellent post!
You are welcome Joanne and Happy New Year to you too 🙂
This was great as usual. I love how you do the research and summarize it by using personal examples. Smiling is powerful in so many ways, now I have another reason to smile at myself in the mirror. Another example: My three and a half year old granddaughter saw her reflection in the mirror of our guest bathroom and discovered there were two Mia’s. She squealed with delight and insisted I see the two Mia’s. She loves smiling at herself. I hope her message to herself will always be, I’m smart, beautiful and I love being me.
Thank you Brenda. I too hope that is always Mia’s message to herself. Happy New Year 🙂
Love this and love that you include your references. Thinking of you!
Thank you Paula. Happy New Year and hope to see you soon 🙂